Everyone hates being called an attention seeker but lets face it, we all do it to some extent.
We want someone to notice our new hairstyle. We want someone to notice we’ve been working out. We want someone to notice a job well done.
Deep down, its hard not to want attention sometimes. I get that. However, what it has taken me quite a while to realise is what attention I want.
In a social situation (a pub, a gym etc) and you have a mix of people. Most girls, admittedly myself, notice the best looking girls and guys in the room (subject to opinion). Where ever we are, we have tried to look our best (yes, even at the gym with no make up).
We want the hottest guys to try and get our attention and we want the hottest girls to look us too.
REALITY CHECK PLEASE GUYS
No matter how much weight you’ve lost, muscle you’ve built, hair you’ve grown, face you’ve contoured… if a guy is an arsehole and a girl is a bitch, they will stick to what they know.
Recently, I have put much more effort into my health and fitness as well as upping my make up game (I DISCOVERED HIGHLIGHTER) AND I became single. All contributing factors to what I am going to say next.
A range of guys come out of the woodwork: The ones you are instantly physically attracted to and then, all the rest.
I’m not a judge a book by its cover girl but you can’t help it when you are sexually attracted to what you believe is HOT… so you give attention back to the ones your attracted too.
Now… 9 times out of 10, from experience, these are the guys that pop up first and disappear first. They realise you’re not going to fall at their feet or jump into bed with them after a drink and a cheeky nandos.
THESE ARE THE PEOPLE YOU DO NOT WHAT ATTENTION FROM.
(unless its Ron Weasley)
and whilst it’s nice to get chatted up by really hot guys within being single for 5 minutes, it’s not real.
Then follows a mix of people and seriously, give everyone a chance.
Don’t become a serial Facebook/Twitter/Tinder messager and DO NOT MESSAGE TWO GUYS WHO ARE BEST FRIENDS! – not a good idea.
BUT… get to know people. If that’s what you want.
Because most of the time when we’re giving our flirty banter to the sexually attractive guys, the other guys are giving us the same attention too and we just think “awww they’re cute”.
SECOND REALITY CHECK
More than likely, they are actually really nice people and have probably waited to talk to you because you were previously off the market. Maybe… just maybe. I know this does not apply to everyone and I also know that not all guys that are hot have the personality of an arsehole.
DONALD TRUMP IS AN EXCEPTION TO EVERYTHING IM SAYING!!!
PERSONALITY IS IMPORTANT!
and when I have fallen in love with someone, it was because their personality has brought out their beauty even more.
ONE LAST THING
Learn to love yourself. I know we all like positive reinforcement but when you love yourself, you need less to little attention from other people.